Posts about marriage and living together

Anonymous 2026/10/02 My wedding ring has been in the top drawer of my desk at work for two years and my wife doesn't know I take it off every morning. I'm forty-three. Married fourteen years. Two kids, nine and six. I want to say the thing that will be assumed and get it out of th…

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Anonymous 2026/10/07 At forty-six I found out I'm a carrier for something, and the question I actually have is whether to tell my adult children, and nobody will give me a straight answer. I'll be general about the condition on purpose, because it's rare enough that naming it plus…

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Anonymous 2026/09/29 I’m jealous of my best friend’s marriage and I’ve started avoiding her because I don’t like who I become around her. We got married around the same time. Her husband cooks, plans dates, helps with their kids, remembers things without being reminded, and actual…

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Anonymous 2026/10/08 I know more about this town's divorces, deaths and failures than anyone except maybe a bail bondsman. Fifty-eight. Nine years at this location, three hundred and forty units, on a highway outside a city I won't name. Before this I sold industrial flooring for …

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Anonymous 2026/09/29 I’ve been married for years and I recently realized that I don’t fantasize about another woman, I fantasize about living alone, and somehow that scares me more than if I were attracted to somebody else because at least then I could point to a problem. My wife …

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Anonymous 2026/09/29 I’m starting to think I don’t want kids, and I’m terrified to tell my fiancé because we got engaged under the assumption that we would have them. I never lied exactly. For years I genuinely thought I wanted a family because that’s just how I pictured adulthood…

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Anonymous 2026/09/26 I'm sixty-one years old with eleven thousand dollars in retirement savings and I have told no one, including my wife. I want to write this with the numbers in it, because every article I've read about this is written by someone with a plan. I make sixty-two th…

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Anonymous 2026/10/04 I keep a spreadsheet of every lie I have told my wife. There are forty-one rows. Not one of them is about another woman and that is why I can't show it to her. Forty-six. Married nineteen years. I started the file in 2016 and I know exactly why: I'd told her s…

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Anonymous 2026/09/28 My wife and I agreed to stay married until our youngest finishes high school. She's a sophomore. Three more years. We made the deal at a kitchen table in 2022, soberly, like two people negotiating a lease. There was no fight. There hasn't been a real fight in …

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Anonymous 2026/09/27 I’ve been married long enough that people around us have started calling us “one of the good couples,” and every single time somebody says that I feel like a fraud. My husband hasn’t cheated on me, at least not in any way I can prove, but for the past year the…

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Anonymous 2026/09/27 My wife had an affair seven years ago and I stayed, but sometimes I think staying changed me into someone I don’t like. We did all the things people tell you to do. Marriage counseling, transparency, passwords, long conversations, boundaries, accountability. S…

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Anonymous 2026/10/02 I read my husband's therapy notes and I can't un-know what was in them. He writes in a notebook after his sessions. He's done it for about three years. It sits in his nightstand and I have known it was there the entire time and I never touched it. In July he w…

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Anonymous 2026/09/22 I have tinnitus. Six years. I want to write about it properly, because everything I found was either a medical pamphlet or someone in crisis, and I'm neither. Forty-one. It started in October 2019 after one concert, which is embarrassingly on-the-nose. Not eve…

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Anonymous 2026/10/01 I found out at fifty-one that neither of my kids is biologically mine, and I've decided not to tell them, and I need to explain the reasoning to someone. Married twenty-four years. Two kids, twenty-two and nineteen. I found out in the stupidest possible way: a…

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Anonymous 2026/09/27 My sister is marrying a man I cannot stand, and everybody thinks I’m jealous because she’s getting married before me. I wish it were that simple. He has never hit her, never cheated that I know of, and he’s charming enough around our parents that they love him…

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Anonymous 2026/09/29 I used to think emotional affairs were something people invented to make normal friendships sound dramatic until I watched my husband have one. There was no sex that I know of. No hotel room, no kissing, no dating app. Just a woman from work who slowly became …

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Anonymous 2026/09/17 My wife asked me to open our marriage eight months ago and I said yes, and I have been quietly falling apart ever since. I need to be fair to her because she has not done anything wrong. She was honest. She brought it up in a calm conversation, she gave me mon…

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Anonymous 2026/10/10 My son stopped speaking to me in 2021 and he still texts my wife on her birthday, and I have come to understand that this is not an accident. He's thirty-one. We have a daughter too, twenty-seven, who talks to both of us and who has made it clear she will not …

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Anonymous 2026/09/27 I think I’m emotionally attached to my therapist and I’m embarrassed even typing that. Before anybody assumes something inappropriate happened, it didn’t. She has never crossed a line. She has never flirted with me. She’s professional, kind, consistent, and pr…

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Anonymous 2026/10/12 My daughter's goldfish lived nine years and I replaced it four times and she found out last month, at twenty-four, and her reaction is not what I expected. The fish was from my father. He gave it to her in 2007, when she was six — a bowl, a plastic plant, one …

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